Why is it so hard to maintain focus? There are a few reasons. I will tell you up front that this is going to be a personal blog post because lately I have been very unfocused in a number of areas and I got thinking about WHY?
Lately I have been unfocused about my weight loss, my food plan, my exercise, this blog, and a few other things.
I will try to give you a few reasons I think I have been unfocused, and maybe you can relate. Together we might even find some answers and steps to refocus.
First, I suffer from a condition called Seasonal Affective Disorder. At this time of year in the area I live, it is very dark and grey for days on end. Loads of rain and gloom. SAD makes you feel tired all the time. If it gets bad enough, some people have to use what is called light therapy- sitting under special lights to make up for the lack of sunlight, and the resulting lack of vitamin D.
Because of my lack of energy, I have only been getting out to the gym once a week instead of the 3 times I had planned to do. I have fallen behind on my food diary because I just didn’t feel like filling it out one day, and I would blink and a week had gone by.
I have started taking my vitamin D again and have been feeling a bit better. I am not a doctor and not saying this is what you should do. Always check with your doctor first.
The sun is coming back slowly but surely, and the days are getting longer and that is helping too.
Secondly I have to admit to a tendency towards being lazy. I can drift off my plans and just need to pull myself back on track. This is why I have always been bad at journalling.
Thirdly, like so many, I can become discouraged at a lack of results. I should know better. I should know that this takes time, but it is especially hard when you hit a plateau. That discouragement at a lack of results becomes a slippery slope, but I have a good support network. My wife pointed out to me how I had gone off track with my food plan, and has been helping me get back on track.
I have to confess something now that is kind of difficult. I have been discouraged by the results of my blog. I know there are a few folks following me, but I just can’t seem to grow this blog and I have even been thinking “What’s the point if no one is reading. Maybe no one cares.”
That same feeling has been creeping into my efforts at becoming a motivational speaker. I have been thinking Maybe no one wants to hear what I have to say? Maybe people are still looking the quick fix, and that’s not what I offer.
My work as an entertainer has dropped off as well, though as I speak to other performers they tell me the economy is effecting them too.
This realization leads me to number four – plain old self pity. I have come to realize that a large part of my problem lately has been a good old fashioned pity party. Part of that is from focusing on others instead of myself, which is something else I should know is not the way to be.
So what is the solution?
First there are a few things I can do about the SAD. I am taking my vitamin D with my multi vitamin, I am back on track with eating more fruits and veggies and I am taking time to get relaxation as well as proper sleep.
Second thing is what do I do about leaning to the lazy side? It is up to me to pull it together. Part of that is setting a time every day to make sure I log my food. I set it in my calendar like an appointment.
Third I will stop focusing on others- at the gym, other bloggers and other performers. I will acknowledge my own accomplishments and achievements, and even start giving me non-food rewards. This is something I had done before but for some reason had stopped.
Number four is the hardest. I just have to tell myself (as you have to tell yourself) ENOUGH! Stop the pity party and get on with it.
So why have I written all this? One is to get it off my chest, if only for myself, but the other is that I hope by sharing some of these things about myself, that you may recognize them in yourself and start to refocus yourself.
Here is my plan to refocus. You can take from it what works, and leave what doesn’t work for you.
I need to refocus in three ways – first spiritually. For me that means more time in my Bible, and more time in prayer. Second – mentally. For me that means stop the pity party and as the jocks would say, get my head (and heart) back in the game. Thirdly – physically. For me this means to refocus on my food plan and on my physical plan.
It is never a bad thing to stop once in a while if we feel we need to regroup. It is not wrong to acknowledge what has gone right.
I am proud of my 190 pound loss and I know I will get to goal. I know that the closer I get to my goal the more challenging it becomes. I hope you will all be along for the ride because I plan to continue sharing.
I want to ask a huge favour. If you have ever gotten anything from my blog – a tip, an idea or even a chuckle or two, please tell others and get them to follow my blog. Not “like” when it posted to Facebook, but actually follow me.
Until next time, have a happy and healthy day!