I have talked about this on different occasions, but it bears repeating. We are often our own worst enemies, particularly by how we talk to ourselves. The negative messages we feed ourselves can slow down and even stop our weight loss journey and can’t stop us from reaching other goals as well.
One of the most dangerous seems like an innocent phrase. It’s Cheat Day or a Cheat Meal. You see, the word cheat implies guilt. If you cheat at something, you don’t usually feel good about it. When we apply this to our weight loss or healthy eating plan, it can totally derail us.
Try this – It’s Treat Day or a Treat Meal. What’s the difference? A treat is something you have now and then. Maybe you earned it, maybe you just feel like it but you have to acknowledge it without adding a layer of guilt.
Remember the 80/20 rule. Eat healthy and on point 80% of the time and you can have the 20% to be more forgiving with, and that’s where treats can still fit in.
The next biggie is comparing. I am just as guilty as any of you on this one. I go to the gym and I see guys who look like they could bench press a Buick and I think “I will never be like that guy.”
I mean first of all, I am 58. He is in his 20’s. He’s been doing this a lot longer than me. I will never be there.
Well maybe not, but I am slowly but steadily moving towards my goal. I am around 200 pounds lighter than I used to be. I am that guy that would fake PMS to get out of gym class, and now I like going to the gym. If that is not an improvement on my old self, then I don’t know what is.
Have you ever said this one? “I don’t have the time.” Really? You have the same 24 hours as the rest of us. How much of that 24 hours do you spend in non-productive time like scrolling Facebook or Twitter or watching The Dancing Bachelorette or whatever? If you just took ONE of those hours, you have time to get in some exercise. It could be going to the gym, but it could be going for a walk, playing with the grandkids, gardening or other things that get you moving.
Even the word DIET can be a landmine. “I can’t have that. I’m on a diet” “I don’t want to go to that party because I’m on a diet.” Richard Simmons once said “Diet’s don’t work. You go on a diet to lose X number of pounds and as soon as you do, you go back to your old eating habits and the weight comes back.”
You have to change out the word diet for eating plan or for my healthy eating plan. You see, again going back to the 80/20 idea, you can eat anything you want, but what I have found is once I discovered how long it takes to work off that junk food, I just don’t WANT to have it (most of the time).
Instead of criticizing yourself with negative words, start to encourage and empower yourself by switching from a negative to a supportive mindset. Be your own cheerleader. Negative thoughts and words will hold you back in life and will make it difficult to reach your goals. Only think supportive thoughts and cheer yourself up, you don´t need others for this!
Your thoughts not only affect your mood but also affect your health and overall wellbeing. If you only focus on what´s not good in your life or what could go wrong, you most likely miss out on some amazing and positive things happening around you while attracting even more negativity and worries into your life.
Your thoughts are powerful – more powerful than you may think.
Until next time, have a healthy and happy and positive day!